Hi and thanks so much for stopping by! I started GIRL WITH CURVES in 2011 as a creative outlet outside my (now former) career in technology. With encouragement from my husband, I started sharing my personal style online.
What started as a personal style blog has evolved into a lifestyle site inspiring confidence through fashion, style advice, beauty tips, wellness and living.
I’ve struggled with self-esteem my entire life. And like every woman I know, there are things about my appearance I would love to change. However, there came a time in my life- 8 years ago to be exact, when I realized the road to loving myself- though long, would be much more rewarding than the bumpy, mentally exhausting road I’d been on, loathing myself.
Fashion is something I’ve always been passionate about, but it wasn’t always an easy hobby to have as the tallest girl in school (I’m 5 feet ten inches), with the largest feet (size US 12) and the only one who skipped a training bra and went straight to the real thing. Not fitting into the clothes my friends were able to wear, having multi-racial hair I rarely saw on TV or in magazines, were just a few beauty-anxieties I struggled with throughout my adolescent and teen years, and some I still find myself dealing with even today.
After years battling eating disorders and excessive exercise as a result of poor self-esteem and a major lack of confidence in my teens and twenties, I suffered severe knee injuries. It wasn’t until I was a few pounds shy of my goal weight, had no cartilage left in my knees and could barely walk, that I was faced with a harsh reality: I almost liked what I saw on the outside, but I wasn’t happy inside. At that very moment, I had a personal awakening. I looked in the mirror and asked myself why I spent so much time hating my imperfect eyebrows, acne-prone skin, frizzy hair, wide hips, lack of a thigh gap thunder thighs, cellulite, stretch marks, thick knees, big feet, the list went on… I asked myself, was wasting time focusing on the outside, worth being trapped in a mental prison of unhappiness on the inside?
From that moment on, I made an effort to focus on accepting things about myself I once considered flaws. Although I didn’t see anyone in the media I could relate to completely, I made small connections with women I admired- like Jennifer Lopez’s ample backside, Mariah Carey’s curly hair, Marilyn Monroe’s thick thighs and hips. Making connections between physical characteristics I admired in others, with those I possessed myself, allowed me to start viewing my flaws as beautiful.
When I started GIRL WITH CURVES over 7 years ago, I didn’t set out to make a difference in the way other women saw themselves. I simply needed a creative outlet, and to be honest I was scared to death of what people would think of me. I was so afraid of the judgement I thought I’d receive, when in fact it was my own inner voice, going over all the things I didn’t like about myself.
Early on, I received messages from women of all ages (and even single fathers with teenage daughters!), saying how inspired they were seeing someone they could relate to on some level- whether it be body type, height, size, race, hair type, eye color, you name it!
What I realize every single day in connecting with women from all over the world through this blog, is that we all strive to make connections with other people, but we miss the most important one: connecting with ourselves. If we can recognize beauty in others, why is it so hard to see beauty in ourselves?
As GWC readers gain confidence in themselves by relating some part of their physical appearance, beauty trials, health or lifestyle experiences with mine, I gain confidence in knowing the work I do is helping others, and hopefully preventing someone from suffering the effects of poor self-esteem and lack of confidence I experienced most of my life.
My goal is to inspire unapologetic confidence, encouraging women to look and feel amazing, regardless of size-TANESHA AWASTHI